Planning a funeral is never easy. You want the best for your friend or family member but, unless they’ve discussed what they wanted or included instructions in their will, it can be hard to know where to start.
There are no rules about how soon you have to hold a funeral; it’s up to you. We understand there can be a many reasons why you may wish to have the funeral within a certain timeframe and we’ll do everything we can to ensure that happens.
One of the first things to decide is what type of service to have. It’s not uncommon for people to leave instructions or discuss this with their family before they die, and if this is the case we’ll help you make sure that their wishes are honoured. Otherwise, we’ll take time to talk to you about your loved one so that we can help you plan a fitting farewell that reflects their live and beliefs.
If the person was religious this may help you shape your plans – even if you do not share their beliefs, most people wish to respect and reflect them in the service. Not everyone is religious and it’s just as important to respect that, in which case a secular service may be more appropriate.
Some families prefer to have a private burial or cremation service either before or after a bigger, more public memorial service (this can be religious or secular). Again there are no rules about when the memorial service takes place – it can be immediately before or after the private ceremony, or they could be days (or even weeks) apart. There is no right or wrong way to do things – only what’s right for your family.
Burial or cremation?
Many people make it clear whether they want to be buried or cremated, so it may simply be a case of honouring their wishes. If nothing has been specified and there are no other factors, such as religious requirements, to consider, it will usually be a case of deciding what you feel is most appropriate.
Whilst most burials take place in churchyards or cemeteries (grave yards that are not attached to a church) other options such as woodland burials are becoming increasingly popular. Should you be unsure about anything, we will explain what your options are and provide you with all the information you need to make a decision.
With a more traditional churchyard or cemetery burial, it may be possible to use an exiting lair. If you wish to do this, you will need to have the relevant deeds or documents. Don’t worry if you’re not sure where they are, we can help you with this but it may mean that things take a little longer to finalise.
There are various fees involved with burials and these will vary depending on whether you use a new or exiting lair, your location and the site. As with every aspect of the funeral we will talk you though your choice and the costs involved, but please be aware that these most burial fees are unavoidable and outwith our control.